“Do I WANT to do better?”
It’s a valid question and really…it’s the first question you should ask yourself before beginning any project or setting a new goal.
Because if you don’t actually want to do something better or improve, you will never gain the momentum necessary to finish, to move forward.
We are so good at setting life goals come every New Year’s Eve. It’s an easy time of year when everything feels right to begin anew. New Year…new you, right?
But how often do we check in with those goals? We cast a broad net at the start of the year, but when do we go back and measure our pace? Do we go back and check at all?
I have found that it’s helpful to allow a healthy transition time after setting goals, but it’s also key to continue that sense of checking in.
Personally, I intuitively do that “check in” with the changing of the seasons. This not only works for me, but it can feel very natural for anyone to do.
It is with gratitude that their changes become my changes too.
My children are turning such big corners and so are my husband and I.
This summer, my husband Tom turned fifty and I turned forty-nine.
How did it feel for Tom to turn fifty? His short answer was “no different than it did to turn forty-nine.” But it IS a milestone birthday and one that I am nearing as well, so the slightly longer answer I will give for both of us is to echo what my dear friend Julie Van Straten once told me…that “IT IS A PRIVILEGE TO AGE.”
My children are indeed turning such big corners and with hearts FULL of gratitude, my husband and I are both here to experience and celebrate all of it.
And yes…growing older is indeed a privilege and Tom was facing this milestone with aplomb. But when I thought about our birthdays this year as more of a reflection of the life I have created with my husband and our children and the companies we have built, I decided we needed to celebrate.
So we threw a surprise 50th birthday party for my husband, Tom.
Inspired by his use of the word “Better” as a motivator for our partners at Elevate97 and in everything he sets out to do, we managed to get 200 of our closest friends and business partners into our company cafeteria on a Wednesday afternoon…a DJ and a freezer full of gelato at the ready.
Our team had a window of three hours to re-create our lunchroom into a lounge while one of our favorite local chef’s prepared a generous buffet of incredible food and signature cocktails. Our friends at Hinterland Brewery brought the beer and Tom’s favorite singer flew in from Colorado to serenade us.
Months earlier, our in house graphic artist, Dayna Klein, created an original t-shirt designed for the event. Dozens of these t-shirts were handed out to the guests as they arrived that day. Elevate97 partners and the partners at our sister company, WeConnect, donned the special shirts and waited in the darkened cafeteria.
Tom arrived back at Elevate97 under the guise that we were having an all company meeting and photoshoot. As he rounded the corner into the lunchroom, 200 party guests began to sing “Happy Birthday”.
He was stunned.
Then, very unexpectedly, our son Ben, popped out from behind the corner, threw his arms around my husband and shouted, “Happy Birthday, Papa!”
That was the moment he realized what was happening.
I watched as my husband made his way through the rows of guests, identifying the faces of family and friends and colleagues…so many members of his “tribe”. All of them wearing his favorite word “Better” on their shirts, all of them there to celebrate with him.
It brought me such joy.
The party was a huge success.
(I still can’t believe we pulled it off!)